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‘X’ Marks The Spot?

sjt09 — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:57:35 +0000

We all need goals. We all need something to look forward to, to help us get up in the morning. But don’t be fooled into think that your sole purpose in life can be found in a career or in financial success! Some of the richest people in the world are also the most depressed.

If you determine that you purpose in life is to obtain ‘X’ amount of money and only this will make you happy, you will cause yourself to be unhappy the entire time you’re striving for it. You’ll busy yourself thinking your happiness is because of your lack of ‘X’, when really, your unhappiness would be steaming from your obsession with ‘X’. If this behavior goes unchecked, you might consume your entire life working and never really live!

We all have a purpose in life. Don’t readily accept what the TV tells you your purpose is without giving it some thought. Culture yourself to learn more about what people around the world think and see if you find truth in other peoples perspectives!

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How To Make the Glass Half Full

sjt09 — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 17:10:46 +0000

Is the glass half empty or is the glass half full? Two people can see the same situation in completely different ways; one positively, one negatively.

Imagine: One person gets fired from their job. They worry endlessly and feel sad all the time.
Now image another person who loses their job. They’re upset about losing their job but are excited to finally have the chance to pursue their dream job.

The person who looks at a situation negatively will despair and give up. The person who looks at a situation positively will preserve in hardship and trek forward towards better things. Everyone reaches roadblocks in all aspects of their life. The only way to overcome these roadblocks is to positively preserve. Here are some tips on how to do it:

1) Don’t waste your time replaying the past. A lot of people focus on what they’ve lost instead of focusing on what they can gain.
2) Write down lessons from your mistakes so that you don’t make them again!
3) Continue to strive for success and be confident that you will attain it. Refer to our ‘Solo Driven Singles’ blog on how to do that

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Solo Driven Singles

sjt09 — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 16:30:15 +0000

Motivation is what keeps us going from one task to the next as we try to achieve our goals. Although our motivations can be strong they tend to weaken as we become exhausted over time. This is why having someone to push you forward and re-ignite your fire of motivations can be so important. But what if you don’t have that someone?

People often think that this presence that can encourage us to chase our dreams can only be found in a partner. They let opportunity after opportunity slip away because they’ve lost the drive they started with and are no longer confident, or strong enough to pursue it. When confronted with tough decisions they can’t make up their mind because they need that comforting voice to help them choose. If you find that you follow these trends from time to time and want to escape it, follow these tips:

1) Be your own presence that pushes you forward. Realize that sulking, procrastinating or giving up won’t help you achieve your goals, so you have to be your own voice of encouragement!
2) Set up a major goal and promise yourself you will achieve it. This will help keep you focused and on track so that you’re moving steadily towards your goal; instead of moving all over the place but not getting closer to your goal.
3)When you see an opportunity and are unsure if you should take it, refer back to your major goal. If this opportunity will further you towards your goal then take it! If it won’t further you towards your goal then maybe it’s a better idea to leave it be and search for something else.
4) Make friends with people who are knowledgeable in the goal you want to peruse. They might not be that comforting voice you desire to hear but they will offer you great advice that can lead to great rewards; and great rewards are great encouragement.

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Nurturing Your Will-Power

sjt09 — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 16:40:39 +0000

Will-power is what keeps us going, even when things get tough. It’s the drive that enables singles to do things that they never thought were possible! Without the the right will-power, interests and desires will eventually vanish with every approaching obstacle.

Will-power stems from sincere desires that come from the heart. With the right will you’ll be able to adapt the right frame of mind which is: Never give up! Unfortunately, if you don’t guard and nurture your will-power it will leave you and your unfinished goals hanging in mid-air. Here are some tips on how to power-up your will:

Pressure yourself. When you learn to pressure yourself you act like your own alarm clock; alerting yourself every time you start falling asleep to your dreams.
Surround yourself with boosters. Boosters are something that will help you achieve your goal. For example, if you are trying to lose weight surround yourself with healthy foods.
Keep a positive circle of family, friends and peers. Positive people will offer you words of constructive criticism, encouragement and compassion towards achieving your goal. Stay away from negative people as they will have little to offer you and goals.

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Manage Your Energy for Better Productivity

sjt09 — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 16:47:34 +0000

Time management is essential for better productivity in your life; but what’s more important is how you manage your energy so you last longer and produce better results. Good time management skills with a low amount of energy will create nothing but sloppy results. In cases of severe energy depletion, one might even be compelled to drop the rest of their scheduled tasks, despite their nagging inner critic.

Your productivity is largely dependent on your energy reserves. When your body is full of energy it functions at its peak, quickly producing better results in your day to day life. Singles need to know where their energy is coming from and how to draw from it when needed. Energy can be drawn from physical, emotional, mental and spiritual reserves. Keeping these aspects of yourself healthy will help in maintaining the energy you need to be more productive in life!

One way to quickly drain these reserves is to let yourself get burned out. Burning out is something that happens to everyone from time to time but can actually be avoided. If you find yourself burnt out, a quick way to boost your energy reserves is to be positive. Negativity brings productivity to a halt and depletes your energy very quickly.

To manage your energy, try taking short breaks in between heavy work loads. Also, break down your heavy work loads into smaller, more manageable tasks. This will make it much easier for you to stay optimistic in completing your tasks, thus making your energy much more maintainable. You’ll finish seemingly huge tasks with energy to spare and even with enough time to see your friends after work!

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Over Come Your Inner Critic Today!

sjt09 — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 17:14:57 +0000

The worst critic a single can have is their own inner critic. Everyone of us has an inner critic that can be hard to tame at times. Its effects, as it seems, differs from one person to another and can affect how we conduct our daily affairs tremendously. It makes us self-conscious of our actions and gives us that uneasy, guilty feeling if we defy it. What singles should know is that your inner critic can be your friend, if you learn how to harness it.

Your inner critic began forming in your childhood and continues to change and evolve every day. The strongest factor in your inner critics ‘shape’ is the way right and wrong is perceived by the people closest to you. In fact, if you listen to your inner critic closely, it sounds a lot like your parent’s voice from your childhood, or even a bully from your grade school days.

Some may consider their inner critic as a monster lurking just around the corner, but in reality you can have your inner critic work for you. Know and accept your limitations and use your inner critic to decipher between what will add to your happiness and productivity or subtract from it. Make your inner critic your number one helper in making decisions and it will guide you to all the right steps in life.

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